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Posted November 13, 2016
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Posted January 18, 2016
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| Member since: 29 Aug, 2015 |
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| Location: Denver |
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| Relationship status: Single |
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About me:
First & foremost: "Be who you are and say
what you feel, because those who mind don't
matter and those that matter don't
mind." (Dr. Seuss)
Not too long ago, someone sent me a message
through a mutual friend. It was her
"advice" that I need to stop disliking
people. How odd. Growing up in family, school, and
church, I was taught to freely give love and
respect to every person I meet; give each
individual a chance. I actually give love freely
as I was taught. By their actions, words and
behaviors their worthiness or unworthiness will be
evident.
Being a pragmatist, I pondered how to be as fair
as I can be. After some consideration, I adopted
the "three strikes rule". Formerly, the
rule in baseball was that four fouls created an
out. A number of years ago, the rule was changed
to unlimited fouls. In kind, I am loathe not to
give liberal opportunities if the person seems
like an effort is being made to make amends.
As individuals, our tendency leans towards
intelligence, compassion, fair-mindedness, and
being kind-hearted. As a people, however, we can
be panicky, hysterical, prone to irrational
thought and behavior (e.g., mass hysteria in times
of crisis) and incredibly stupid at times.
Conversely, as a people, we can also show
brilliance, ingenuity, and achieve marvelous
outcomes.
Now, this woman, who really doesn't know me
all that well, made a judgement that I needed to
stop disliking people. In our initial
acquaintance, it appeared that she could very well
become a close and trusted friend. As time passed,
it became painfully clear that she would spread
rumor, conjecture and lies about many (most)
people. She betrayed my confidence on more than
three occasions and also engaged in malicious
gossip. Her behavior earned her the right to be
disliked, held without respect or trust.
To that end, my response to her judgement/advice
was and remains to be: If I should stop disliking
people (e.g., her), THEN SHE SHOULD CEASE ENGAGING
IN BEHAVIORS FOR WHICH SHE WILL BE AND ARE
DISLIKED!
This part of life is not quantum mechanics. In
fact, it's rather more simple: Have dignity.
Maintain your integrity. Be honest in your
dealings with others. Remember the world does not
necessarily revolve around you. Respect others and
focus on cleaning up your own back yard. Be cool
and don't be a tool. |
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